Sunday, July 19, 2015

Your True Worth

Your value is not what the world tries to make you believe. It's not an IQ, it's not about your status in society, it's not how many friends you have, it's not how much money you can make, it's not how many "likes" you get on Facebook, and it's certainly not your own opinion of yourself when you're feeling down.  Life ebbs and flows, it shape shifts, startles, frustrates, and hurts sometimes. But...

This is what I know...

There isn't a single solitary thing you can't achieve if you want it bad enough. There isn't a pain or tragedy that you can't get through if you will only allow it to help you grow. There isn't a person anywhere in this world that can strip you of your innate grace, peace and worth. There isn't a job, or relationship, or family member, or friend, that can make you feel less than your own radiant self, unless you allow them to.  But here's the thing, just when you think your life is on track, someone will try to knock you off. Count on it. No matter what kind of mantel of peace I wear, some fool will surely try to undo it and rip it off and stomp it in the ground. So, what to do? Cry and moan that the world isn't fair? Ask Goddess why She makes such mean people, and why do they have to inflict their own self-loathing on you? No. Get rid of the notion there is some source or power raining down stress and strain on us when we think we least deserve it. This is not how it works. These things happen to us because it's a way of showing us we need to move up a notch or two. It's time to shed yesterday's beliefs and opinions and the false sense of security we thought we had, and it's time to cultivate a solid inner core of unshakable calm. This is good news! Somehow you outgrew the old system, (yay!) and now you are ready to move up. Always up. There is no going back, friends.  Once you set your foot upon a spiritual path, there is no going back.  It stretches you beyond your comfort zone, and once stretched you can never go back to your original shape.

But, let's stop the pity party.  Let's take stock of the day, the people, the situations, and if need be, cut them free...you know, the naysayers, the so-called "friends" cloaked in hypocrisy, our too settled sense of our place in life.....and embrace the change that is happening.  Change is a good thing.  I used to fear it with a passion, until I learned how to ride with it.  Change is a living, breathing thing. Let's not strangle it.  Change makes it possible to have a new canvas to paint on, a new set of opportunities that can find their way into your life.  It's a fresh breeze that carries newness on it's wings. And when change does happen......let it....but don't cling to it, for it will indeed change again when the time is right. Does this scare you? Does this sound like you can never relax and have things to count on? Does this sound too transient, too iffy, too...impermanent?  Get your core strength in place.  Decide what is important to you in your life, then focus on it. Make it unshakable.  This is where you get your peace.  This is how you know you'll be okay when the tides shift.  Get your foundation in place and let the world change, as it surely will. You'll be fine and solid and beautiful.

Truly, if you want permanence and peace and stability in your life, then embrace change and allow it the freedom to move around, and through you.  Your peace and stability comes from an inner core of calm that can be cultivated and nurtured. For no matter what goes on around you, no matter what, you can stand in a space of self-reliance and self-worth while you let all the impermanent things fall away from you. It's worth it just to see this in action. Let the false things fall away.  And here's another thing, when you're ready to grow many things will seem to go wrong and fall apart.  A process of clarification begins to happen.  What does not serve our highest good begins to fall away. This can be disconcerting, to say the least.  I know, believe me.  Trust the process.

My own sense of worth finds it comforting to know that beyond what we see and feel and deal with on a day-to-day basis is not necessarily the truth of our being. Never was. The truth of our being is that we are loved beyond all reason and knowing, and we are worth more than any amount of worldly achievement. In the face of darkness and adversity, you will meet yourself. Be gentle. In the face of hurt and disappointment, you see the truth. Fear not. Within the voices that try to tear us down, we will meet our own true worth, or see exactly where we need to do a little more work, in order to bring it to the forefront.  Do it with joy. Your worth is there. Let the world in all it's silly ways strip away what is false.  It was never ours to begin with. Underneath it all lies your freedom from being incessantly jerked around.  Within the problem facing you lies an answer and a gift.  In the very hands that we perceive as threatening lies the way to become safe and anchored.  Asking for the truth to be revealed to us, and asking for the wisdom to see beyond the veil that hides our true being, is the beginning of profound and lasting change.  You're worth the effort it takes to unmask the layers that have hidden your radiance.

Your true worth is your birthright. There is a world in need of your love and transformative power. Your love.  Your power.  Your gifts.  Aren't they worth unveiling?  Aren't you worth what it takes to become all you are meant to be?  I believe you are.  If I can find my way, so can you.  If I can overcome, so can you.  If you can believe in yourself, so can you.  And that, dear reader, is the kind of change that will completely transform your life.  Because you're worth it.

Until next time...

Cindy

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Living by your lights

I had a client a few weeks ago tell me she felt like she was at the end of her rope. She said she felt everyday was a battle with herself.  Her exact words were, "I feel like I'm living by the skin of my teeth.  I don't trust myself to know how to live right anymore.  It's like I'm going to fall into a hole and never get out".  Yeah, there are times I hear some heavy stuff as a massage therapist.  The sacred space I'm able to hold for people in my line of work is something I never take lightly.  I never give unsolicited advice. That's not my job.  As I begin my work, I simply listen and silently bless the person on my table. What I do know is they are so much more than their current problems!  It's as if we fall asleep for a while and forget just how magnificent we are.  Her follow-up question was, "What should I do?" I'm not a psycho therapist, nor a counselor, but I remember responding with telling her to try living by her lights, instead.  And here's the thing...

What does that mean exactly?

She and I spoke openly for a few minutes about the mind/body connection, and because she asked me directly, I felt it was appropriate to share what I know personally about this subject.  She was very eager to hear that it was possible to alleviate pain and stress in her body by realigning some of her thought processes. But what struck me the most was her statement, "I feel like I'm living by the skin of my teeth." That's a definite struggle, a constant strain. It actually made me think of the poster from years ago with the kitten hanging by it's claw and the words, "Hang In There, Baby" written at the bottom.  Remember that one?  That feels like survival mode, and that's not a comfortable way to live.  If you're merely surviving instead of thriving, then that's not living at all.

But living by your lights, ahh...

Each and every one of us has an inexhaustible source of truth and guidance available to us. Tapping into it is a simple process, but one that requires trust in ourselves.  But here's another thing dearies, trust is hard for people.  We've made so many mistakes in our lives.  We've really messed things up before. People let you down.  A misplaced trust in someone or something can have far reaching effects.  For some people it's absolutely devastating.  The so-called mistakes in our life (and I'm a firm believer there are no mistakes, just missed opportunities for growth) are the guideposts that point us away from the thing that isn't in our best interest.  If you've placed your trust in flimsy and transient things, and been repeatedly disappointed, it's very easy to not trust your instincts anymore. This is where we begin to doubt our own ability to create the life we want...and deserve.

Imagine accepting yourself, in all your imperfect glory, with open arms.  I do this everyday!  It's part of my self-care.  People may have hurt us, people may have let us down, situations may have turned on us, but we, oh my, we are vicious on ourselves.  No one beats us up like the punches we pull on our  hearts and minds. Let's stop that.  Please?  Reestablishing a strong connection to our inner strength and wisdom comes a lot easier when we stop blaming ourselves, or anyone else for that matter, and begin to realize that everything we've ever been through can be used for positive change. This is the acceptance part.  This is true self-love. This is the basis for a new life, or at least, an overhaul on the stagnant one we may be living.

There was a time when I didn't know how to live.  I didn't know how to trust myself.  I didn't know I held all the truth and wisdom and direction that I needed to get out of the mess I'd made of my little world.  It was a process to break this mold, but what catapulted me the fastest into the life I now enjoy was the intentional practice of stopping the blame game, and accepting myself right where I was.  Knowing I was already perfect in all my imperfection allowed me to take a deep breath and exhale a lot of self-doubt and negativity.  I took a good look at all the things I felt I had done wrong, and I turned them around so that everything I had done before was viewed simply as a stepping stone on my own unique path.  It's about choices and consequences, nothing more.  We choose well, or we make a choice that forces us down the road to choose again, or stay stuck.  This was when I began to view my life differently.  This was when I began to trust myself once more.  This was the beginning of my own personal healing.

And the client I had a few weeks ago?  I saw her recently and she shared a list of all the things she felt she does well in life.  I suggested she write down everything that she could consider an asset and a talent...all the little things, too.  With her permission, I can tell you, she knows she is good at hugging. She can roll paint onto walls with lightening speed, and with no drips. She can make risotto like nobody's business.  She can tap dance.  She knows when someone is lying by the way they hold their eyes.  She has x-ray vision when it comes to deciphering bullshit in most any situation.  These are skills and I praised her for acknowledging them!  Her list was just the beginning and I encouraged her to keep noticing all the times she relies on this innate "knowing".  This is the light with which we can choose to live.  It's not about survival, it's about thriving in mind and body.  It's knowing you have what it takes to live a fearless and fulfilling life.  But sometimes it takes things coming to a grinding halt just so we can get off the merry-go-round of self-defeatism. Sometimes it will take just a stopover.  A regrouping.  A quiet time in your day to get still and listen. Ask and you will get an answer.  And if you don't right away, then stay in the moment and just accept you don't know what to do.  Hang with that. It signals the Universe that you are open...ready...waiting.  Be Empty.  Not knowing is a sacred thing to experience.  My most open and empty moments were the times I became filled-up with direction and guidance.  There is no wrong way to learn and grow in this life.  We learn through wisdom or we learn through pain.  One takes longer, that's all.  Never beat yourself up for this. Never.

Live by the light that resides in you.  It's there, dearest.  If you can't believe that right now, then believe me when I tell you this, because I couldn't write it if I hadn't lived it and seen it for  myself. You possess everything you need to shine brightly in this world...and the world has need of you and your light!  Imagine the power that could be harnessed if every man, woman, and child had a grasp of their own strength and courage and beauty! Think of all the lives that could be touched and blessed with this power! And this is not egotistical.  This is humility. Accepting our innate gifts and spreading them among the people we come into contact with is how to live in true community with one another.  That won't feel like survival, at all.  That's not living by the skin of your teeth, that's living by your authentic truth. And when you hook into that which you were born to do, namely to birth your purpose into being, and then live it, you are supported with everything you need to shine in your life. Everything.

Well, I thank you for stopping by.  I write when I feel moved to write, and from the heart, so take what you will and use it, or take nothing at all.  I wish you peace and plenty and a true understanding of the light that resides within you.  You're beautiful and powerful beyond measure!

Until next time...

Cindy

Monday, June 22, 2015

This much I know...

...and believe me there are days when I don't know much at all, but this is something I can write about with certainty:

Our level of daily stress in this life is in direct correlation to how we choose to react to it. Just look at the news for a second...wait, don't do that! We're working on lowering stress at the moment!  (The lopsided media is another blog post for another day)  I can only write from my heart, and I can only write convincingly about what I truly know and have experienced.  And I know about stress. I know about a level of stress that can kill, or at the very least make you sick in heart, mind and body. Yep...I know about all of this intimately...and so do you.  But here's the thing: Living a low-stress life is a choice. It's very easy to say our level of stress comes from outward events, places, things, people. We are very reactionary as humans. This is normal, this is how we decipher situations and make choices about how to act. But it's the first knee-jerk response that I'm trying to overcome in my own personal experience.  How are you doing with it?

I think it's a skill worth acquiring that allows one to react in a dispassionate way when someone throws a ball at us and expects us to drop everything and catch it. It's a skill I am doing my best to cultivate. It is an absolute guarantee there will be something every single day of our life that can, and will, cause us to feel stress. My particular stress can come from being a single mother. I take my role as "Mother", "Caregiver", "Provider" very seriously.....yes, many hats we wear as single moms, and dads. But I want you to know right now, my dearies, just how extraordinary and exceptional you are in raising a child right. And by right, I mean to be present mentally, to have the energy to handle their lives, their needs, their wants, their right to have a safe and loving and stable home. It is an extraordinary thing to give this to a child, and still be able to handle all that is going on in one's own life, and at the same time.

Now, just for kicks, let's throw into the mix someone who likes to live in their own little world and is largely clueless about about what it takes for you to raise your darling and precious child. Let's just say that sometimes there is a disconnect as to what it means to be supportive, respectful, or even cognizant of the fact that to add just one more thing...or attitude, insult, opinion...whatever it is, onto a mother's (or father's) already full plate is something that is not greeted with open arms. Let's just say.

Now what? I've pictured myself many times as Scarlett O' Hara, rising from the ground, dirt in my hand, raising my fist to the heavens vowing that I will never be put upon again! And I can do the Southern accent perfectly!  But here's another thing...I don't want to live that way, and neither do you. I don't want to have to pull myself up, all hot and sweaty out of despair, and vow that I will overcome whatever obstacles are thrown in my path. I want to be able to traipse lightly and gracefully over them!  I don't want a furrowed brow, it's unbecoming. Just know, the obstacles/annoyances are going to be there, they're going to keep coming in small ways, and in some big ways too, everyday. That's the very human side of life. It ebbs and flows and gets stuck from time to time. But, I for one, want to be elegant in how I handle the ups and downs. Now, here comes the choice part...

It's an inside job, babe. Always has been.  *And again, if you're a man reading this, and if the shoe is on the other foot, then please, please know I am with you on this. There are some absolutley wonderful, evolved men/fathers out there. Bless you one and all. Thank you for the service you do, for the love and care you give your children when you are with them. Thank you for the respect and kindness shown to their mother, whether you are together as a couple, or not. Thank you for your reverence of the Feminine.  You are a needed, and I thank you.* 

But back to the inside job thing:

Personally, my life flows beautifully when I prepare myself daily for the ebb and flow of this life. I take nothing for granted. Nothing. So in preparing for my day I make it a point (almost always...I am a work in progress here) to take the time to center myself. I send out thoughts of compassion for an imperfect world populated by imperfect people, people I will no doubt come across today. So, do we expect the best and prepare for the worst? No, not exactly, I say expect the best and then act as if that's what you'll get. It keeps you smiling and open to possibility. But I've also seen the need to hone my ability to let the ball drop when it's thrown at me. People will put unfair amounts of pressure on you, if you allow it. Sometimes you simply must take a stand and speak up. Set your boundaries, and reinforce them everyday. "This is sacred ground". "This is a line you will not cross"...and draw your sword, if need be.  But here's the final thing, for me at least:

I will not allow my thoughts to damn a single living human being no matter what they throw at me. I will practice intention (and speaking up when needed), and I will trust the Universe to provide for me an answer to the problem that has just been created. I have to laugh some days though, because the Universe is showing me I can handle all this stuff by giving me more of it!  Again, it's a choice how I process it, how I choose to respond.  We're always given the opportunity to act from a place of love, or, from a place of fear.  I have been shown that if I keep my thoughts fluid, gentle, expectant, then I will indeed find my way through the mire of human foibles that can cause me to stumble.  I will be given the words to say, the reaction that is appropriate, the unyielding trust that everything will work out...and for everyone's highest good. And just because I can get pissed off over something doesn't mean it's not there to serve me ultimately. I have found it's purpose is to show me that I have the ability to handle it!  Things are not put in our path to make us frustrated, they're there to help us transcend them. It's a loving Universe that shines a bright light on the things we no longer need. The things, people, places, that are holding us back, making us afraid, making us feel weak.  They show up so we can transcend them.  And until a lesson is learned, it will keep showing up and repeating itself in one form, or another.

What is the level of stress you are dealing with today? Can you take it down a notch? Can you drop that hot potato you're holding?  Could you take a few minutes and practice a "stillpoint" in your day? That's as easy as just breathing in and out away from everyone for a few minutes.  Can you trust there is something far greater at work in your life than all the nonsense that's going on around you at the moment?  It's an inside job, babe.  Always has been. Remember this when tempted to point the finger of blame.  And while that can be disconcerting, it keeps us responsible for the quality of our lives, and it also shows us we do have choices. We can create a peaceful atmosphere in our life. Act, don't react. Subtle shifts make all the difference...but don't hesitate to sidestep that ball that's being thrown at you.  Just let it drop.....they'll get over it.  When you can no longer be sucked into the drama, it has a way of lessening. This is what I know, for what it's worth.  Take what makes sense here and use it, and if nothing resonates with you, I thank you for stopping by.

Peace on your heart.

Until next time...

Cindy

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Deflecting Negativity

There is no way around it, negativity comes at us every single day.  Sometimes it's hard to recognize until you hear yourself talking, or you are suddenly stunned by your own thought processes....the times you scare yourself silly, the times you start on a downward spiral of self-loathing, or letting a sense of doom come over you.  The media, newspapers, neighbors, work, school, our political climate, you name it, and you know what I'm talking about here, it comes at us almost as soon as we walk out the door, or turn on the television or radio.  Fear is the outcropping of negativity, but when it begins to take over we feel unable to get a hold of it.  In my massage practice I hear every type of problem, both physical, and emotional. I hear the pain, I sense where it's being held in the body, and then I surround my clients in a space that allows for healing.  Getting a hold of negativity before it lodges in our minds and hearts is what I want to talk about today.  And here's the thing...

Everything we say is an affirmation.  Think about that....everything we say is an affirmation.  It gets registered in our psyche, it imprints on our mind, in our hearts, in our life.  What we focus upon expands, affecting us on a cellular level, and it can actually change our very biology, our physiology, as well.  The whole philosophy that says we create our own reality resonates deeply with me.  We all know how we can talk ourselves into being sick, or scared.  We have all seen the times that the very thing we have dreaded is suddenly there in front of us but, and this is the cool part, if you've ever faced it down, you've probably seen that what you feared wasn't as bad as you thought it would be.  Hmm, odd isn't it, the way this all works?  The power and depth of our thoughts govern so much.

Every time we say we "can't", we are affirming this as true.  But every time we take an open attitude of what could be possible, we are signaling the Universe to give us what we desire, what we have focused on.  And if what we have been focusing on is negativity, in any of it's forms, well, let us not be surprised when we get what we've wished for!  As human beings we seem to not be able to get enough of what we don't want!  Every time we utter the words, "it's because I'm getting older", "it's because I'm over fifty", "it's because that's the way it's always been", "it's because of the economy", "it's because I'm fat", "it's because I don't have enough money" etc., etc.,....feel free to insert your own here...these ingrained beliefs become manifested in your experience.   You know what I mean, we have all done it.  But do you catch yourself sometimes when you're doing it?  Can you take a second and adjust that attitude, maybe, just once in a while?  Can we ditch the "downer" talk for a day?  And don't I know how insidious it can be, how benign at first, how subtle.  Standing guard at the door of our thoughts is a worthy thing.  If you take a day to just "catch" yourself every time you hear yourself speak negatively about yourself, or someone else, you will be stunned at how many times it happens.  But if you take a day to just monitor yourself, I would suggest that you do it without judgement.  This is not about getting down on ourselves for our ingrained habits, it's about lovingly taking a look at where some changes can be made.   And it gets easier the more you do it, I promise.  I'm not perfect at it, but I have come to a place where if I hear or think a negative thought I am able to stop it and re-affirm something else in it's place.  It starts to become second nature, and you will find that you become increasingly uncomfortable in the presence of negativity, of your own creating, or anyone else's.  And you can choose differently!

I start my day with positive affirmations.  Don't laugh.  I'm not talking about the trite ones, I'm talking about the very personal customizable ones only you can create for yourself.  Only you know how you've beat yourself up, how you've instilled fear and dread into your daily life.  You can choose differently.  Had enough of thinking the same old thoughts and saying the same old things and watching those things take root in your life?  Begin slowly, begin with love in your heart for your old thinking, and if it didn't get you what you wanted, at least it got you here to where you can take stock and begin anew.

To begin anew...what a lovely, comforting thought!  We can begin anew, right here, this moment.  All is not lost.  Little-by-little we can confront the old patterns, the old negative self-talk, we can retrain our minds and hearts to choose differently.  A lovely thing begins to happen when negativity is replaced with something better...more and more positive things begin showing up in our lives.  What you focus upon, expands.  Simple.

Oh, and by the way....don't settle for less than everything!  Think and dream big.  You can become a new creature.  You can stop negativity dead in it's tracks.  If you catch yourself slipping into old thoughts and speech, just stop and smile, say "thank you for showing me where I can change this around"...then change it around!  I'm with you on this, couldn't write it if I hadn't lived it!  Been there darlings, so don't absorb it, deflect it.  Rewrite your story, a few simple changes can and will reap big rewards.  It's all good.  It's all here to help us learn and transcend, and to be whatever we want to be.

Until next time...blessings upon your heart!

Cindy



Sunday, February 9, 2014

Hibernation, Meditation, and Inspiration

Hello!  It's been awhile, and I apologize for neglecting my blog.  Life gets to running at full throttle sometimes, and the things we wish to pay more attention to go by the wayside.  *Le sigh*  But here I am again, so let's start anew...

How is this New Year going for you, so far?  We are in the midst of some very cold and snowy weather here in Kentucky, like most of the country is dealing with.  Unusual for us, though, and for many a very unwelcome event in their lives.  I admit I am a Winter person, in fact, I love the way it allows me to slow down and notice life around me.  I become more conscious of my surroundings, my movements, my thoughts.  I've written before of the barren landscape, and the metaphor this represents for me.  I crave the times I can go within and listen, dream, contemplate, and recharge,  How about you?  Do you rebel against the things you cannot control?  And weather is one of those things, for sure!  Or do you accept and adapt?  I've made peace with extremes in weather, I actually look forward to the times when  something bigger than myself forces me to stand back and regroup.  Winter comforts, for me, are the best!  I hope when the cold and snow forces you to slow down, you take the chance to create some homemade bliss.  What are you favorite ways to spend a Winter's day?  I'd love to hear what you do to comfort yourself and your loved ones.

I will keep this blog post short this time, but I have some new directions I'd like to go in the coming months.  Bear with me, and we will take on some different issues.  My hope is that I can offer some different perspectives, some challenging thoughts, and maybe some humor, camaraderie, and a friendly voice as we find our way together.

I've missed you all.

Onward, shall we?

Until next time....Blessings upon your heart

Cindy

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Overwhelmed To The Point Of Tears

It has happened to me more then once recently.  I know when it's coming, too. Before, I never knew how burdened I was until I got down sick.  Sick and tired, and then I got angry because I was sick and tired. Now when I'm coming to a breaking point because of juggling all the things I need to do within a day, I feel the tears behind my eyes getting hot.  So I stop, I let everything drop, and I cry.  Stop, drop, and cry.  That's my survival skill.

There is something miraculous about crying.  Something magical happens when you just let everything go.  It's not giving up, it's giving over to the moment, because you see, sometimes the moment knows better then you do what needs to be done.  And stopping, dropping the "to do" list, and releasing the burdens through your tears is many times your best and healthiest option.  Those closest to us never like to see this either.  It's not for the weak at heart, or for the "fair weather" friend to see.  It takes strength to cry.  And a box of Kleenex.

I cried last week.  I sat on my couch and cried from deep down within me.  It was the kind of cry every overburdened mother knows.  Throw in a hefty dose of single motherhood, and you've got a recipe for a cleansing cry that will release endorphins you didn't even know you had.  Then you feel better.  Then you get yourself up, you make some tea, and set about the business of reviewing and revamping your life.  And for many of us, this will be the umpteenth time to do so. But not to worry.

Just do it.

Get ruthless.  Make a list of all the "stuff" you need to do within a week, and then cross out half of it.  Say "no" to the extra things you willingly took on, call those you promised to lend a hand to and tell them, "I'm terribly sorry, but you see if I follow through and make all those cupcakes for the class party, on top of the project I took on for my church, (neighbor, best friend, spouse, family, community, whatever),  I will have a nervous breakdown and scare the living hell out of my child, let alone all my cats, and I don't look too pretty when when I lose it".  Or, something else along those lines that would be less dramatic.  Be diplomatic, but be honest.  Something like, "I believe I have overextended myself and I must bow out of assisting you this time around", might be better then spewing what is really on your mind.

Then let it go.  No guilt allowed.  There is no virtue in being a multi-tasker.  There is no honor in "playing the room" and giving people what they want from us.  But there is great strength in allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, open, honest.  And there is great self-love in saying, "No".

I offended a lot of people last week by saying "No".  Be prepared for this.  Get a tougher skin and let whoever would make you feel bad about your decisions own their own feelings.  This is not selfish.  There are times in our lives when we have to focus on ourselves, our own home, our own needs and wants.   I have crafted a whole new weekly schedule for me and mine.  I have simplified my life (again), and I have narrowed my intentions onto just a few necessary tasks.  The world will be forever tugging at our sleeve.  People will be forever thinking you can take on just one more thing.  But, look around you.  Is your home suffering?  Are your children missing the time you used to spend with them?  Are you falling into bed at night at 12:30am because you had to stay up that late just to accomplish the tasks necessary so your home can run smoothly?  Have you been able to simply enjoy your home lately?  No?  Well then, get ruthless and cut out the superfluous "stuff" of your life.

"But I can't do this!  I can't upset my friends or family"!

They'll get over it.  Stick to your intention to simplify your life.  Get far from the "madding crowd" and ask yourself what you truly need.   And if it's nap, then take one.  Then get on with the business of streamlining the things that have made you crazy.  You're worth it.  And it beats the alternative, babe.

Don't end up getting down and sick and angry.  Cut it off at the pass.  Put yourself first, for once.  This is spiritual maturity.  This is wisdom.  This will be supported by the Universe, and once you re-prioritize and get serious about restoring sanity to your daily round, you will find an ease and grace return to your days.  And if you're not familiar with these companions, you're in for a treat.  You'll wonder why you waited so long to honor your needs.

And get out into nature.  Let nature heal you, let it show you how to stay within the season of your life. Watch how nature tends to itself without much effort.  Watch a tree blow in the wind, watch the branches bend without breaking.  Just watch, observe and ask for inspiration.  But first you may need to cry...

And that's okay.  It's the beginning of strength.

Until next time...blessings upon your weary heart

Cindy











Sunday, September 2, 2012

Handling The Storms

Well, it's been an interesting year so far.  I've grown in so many ways.  I've been tested, challenged, ridiculed, adored, fallen down, gotten back up, made a hard decision, known great joy, saw my intentions fall into place, and been scared out of my wits. But, I was able to perfect the talent of landing on my feet...every time.

I prayed for peace of mind.  I got storms.  I asked for a smooth road.  I got potholes. Man, I thought, what gives here?  Is the trick to not ask for what you want?  Well...

You see, all of these things have been for my personal growth, even though I never saw it at the time.  They are a gift bestowed by a benevolent Universe to show me that I have the chutzpah, the grit, the talent, the grace to handle whatever comes my way.  And don't get me wrong, I have days on end that are exquisite in their simplicity and joy, but my outlook during the rough times is what I believe paved the way for the good times to come.  I've learned to never ask for a problem-free life, but what I have asked for is the ability to be at peace amidst the upheavals.  We cannot control anything in this life, nothing is guaranteed.  Nothing.  The day I realized this is what led me to seek a way to keep my inner balance during the times that spiral out of control.  But the thing is this....everything comes round right again.

Have you even noticed that?  Maybe not according to your time frame, or maybe not in a way you wished for, but have you noticed that things have a way of righting themselves?  Grace is always at work in our lives.  I have been taken aback by people's anger, especially when I do not live a life of drama and anger myself, and I've been saddened by a sudden change of events, or the things I never saw coming, things that go against the grain of my life, and I've asked, "Why"?  But I don't stay stuck in the problem anymore.  I now ask, "Where does this lead"?  "What good can come of this"?  "How can I best respond in the face of this troubling situation"?  Then the answers come.

When the very core of your life is threatened, when you feel shaken, when you don't know how you'll get through, I have found it helpful to know deep within my heart that changing my perception of a situation is usually all it takes to turn it around. Every single problem that comes arrives with the answer already in place.  Our limited vision and small outlook is what hampers the swift recognition that you will be alright.  What we perceive as a problem is simply an opportunity to rise above and restore peace to our lives.  Does this sound simplistic to you?  When I first started on this path I thought this was a load of new age crap!  But I was so wrong.  So many of us can't see the answer because we are so close to the problem.  Da Vinci once wrote about stepping back from what you are working on, from what is troubling you, and taking three days to simply not look at it.  There's something magical about three days time.  When you loosen your death grip on your problems you allow new energy to flow into the situation.  We can get so hung up on a certain outcome, so focused on the details, when what is really needed is simply letting it go.  Now if your situation is dire, if you are being put out on the street for instance, there are immediate answers available to you in the form of agencies and resources that can help you now.  But even then, allowing a shift in your perception to occur, from "What am I going to do" to "Let's see where this leads", you have actually signaled the Universe that you are open to new experiences.  And the loving, divine, benevolent, all knowing Universe will come to your aid.  So next time it all comes crashing down on your head....you lose your job, you lose your home, your best friend, your bank account, your very sense of safety and security....make a tiny effort to shift your perception of what's happening.  The most devastating things that we see as terrible and undeserved often lead to a whole new life, and if not that grandiose of a change, then they certainly lead to new opportunities.  We never know who's around the corner, what opportunity, person, friend, situation or event that will occur and change your life, and move you forward.  But it doesn't happen by just waiting for it to happen.   The work that is required is your baby steps.  Keep moving forward.

And the bottom line is this:  You are bigger then your perceived problems.  There is a center within you that awaits your acknowledgement, and it will empower you and show you the way.  In just knowing how magnificent you are, your innate brilliance and inner guidance will come to the forefront...and you will be able to handle the storms of life with grace.

I will leave you with this:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."  Marianne Williamson 

Until next time....blessings upon your heart

Cindy